How to Smooth Over Bridal Party Drama
You’ve chosen your bridal party to represent every part of your life. From your sister to your college roommate to your crazy neighbor, the people you want standing up with you will be by your side. But sometimes your support system can be filled with high expectations, insecurities, and anxiety. Here are a few common complaints and the best way we’ve seen each handled.
1. When Someone Complains About Expenses
Being in a wedding party is expensive. According to the Knot, the average bridesmaid spends around $1200 on expenses ranging from hair, to dresses, to bridal showers. When someone starts to complain about finances its not that they don’t want to participate but rather they are frustrated they feel like they can’t. In this case, pulling them aside and asking about ways to mitigate those costs are a good idea. It might be that they do their own hair and makeup, or have to skip your destination bachelorette party. Make sure they know how important they are to you and how much it means for them to be a part of your day.
2. When Bridesmaids Aren’t Meeting Your Expectations
Your bridesmaids role on the day of is identical to being a good friend. You should have them volunteering to help with anything and everything, and, there for emotional support. Remember that if you haven’t expressed your expectations, its hard to point your finger at your bridesmaids. If you know someone is going to want to be involved while another maid will need to step back, designate specific roles. Don’t forget to thank your bridesmaids for everything they have done for you. There is rarely a time people don’t want to help someone who is grateful.
3. When Someone Dislikes Their Outfit/Hair/Makeup
It’s rare to have a bridal party with the exact same proportions and shape. There is also a comfort level in knowing what looks good for your body type. But there should be no way your bridal party are complaining about the dress the day of the wedding. There will be varying opinions about what dress looks best depending on style preferences. My suggestion? Have your bridal party get their dresses with plenty of time to go to a good tailor. The right snips and hems can change everything on a dress while still keeping a uniformity and adding comfort.